Impatient new mothers-to-be are known to be overly dramatic at times and asking a friend to host a baby shower for them is just one of the few things to expect a pregnant woman to do. As most really dream of having a baby shower, they get really disappointed and frustrated when there seems to be no mention of having one thrown for her. So it can be sort of disconcerting but at the same time expected that a mother-to-be would ask a friend to host one for her. So is it okay to do so or not?
Truthfully? It is bad etiquette to outright ask a friend to host the baby shower for you. For one thing, the cost of the shower has to be considered and the planning as well. Your friend may not have offered because they have neither the time nor the money to plan one out. Or, they may actually not be all that familiar with baby shower things; there are some who don’t really know anything about them.
However, there is always a loop somewhere. No one really said or there are no rules stating that one cannot hint a friend to host a party for you. You can mention it as a tradition that is usually done by almost everyone and if she has any idea on how to go about it. The only thing to remember that subtlety is very important in the approach, do not go out headlong.
One way to subtly hint a baby shower thrown for you is to mention in passing that you really wanted to register for a baby shower and yet cannot because there is none being planned out, so you can do the count downs and that you want to share with your friends your good news. The point is, with their busy lifestyle they may actually miss out on the fact that you are nearing your due date.
Now, if you have a Sex in the City type of friendship, asking right out if they plan to give you one is highly acceptable. If they already know you as the type to do it, they might just have been waiting for you to say something. Remember, no matter how close you and your best friends may be, they would never really know if you want something if you don’t say anything, no one can second guess anyone and get it right one hundred percent.
The only thing to face if they do throw a party is the cost of the party. This is a sensitive matter if the friends are not altogether ready to spend for a party. So you can just suggest that a basic baby shower would do as well as a grand one. The point is that before you give birth, you and your friends have a good time and not to solicit gifts from them. Anyway there is always another way to approach it; you can ask them to host a Welcome New Baby! party instead.